Your grandson has taken up needlepoint.
I see you rolling your eyes. I remember
when he was five and asked to do ballet:
you demanded, "is it because you wanted
a daughter?" I snapped at you no, Mom,
it's because he wants to try dancing.
And when he asked me to paint his nails
blue and purple and green you averted your eyes.
My fervent hope today is that wherever
you are -- the World to Come, the afterlife,
getting fabulous manicures with Shechinah
or simply resting, pain-free, in God's embrace --
all of the old life's pre-judgements
about "boys" and "girls" and what we can be
have fallen away. Look, Mom, he's taking up
needle and thread to be like me, and I'm
taking them up to be like you, to finish
the canvas you started. Isn't that what
we all do, in the end: add clumsy stitches
to the unfinished tapestry of generations?
He's trying to make something beautiful
from hard work and yarn. I told him
I'm proud of him. I told him
wherever you are, you're proud of him too.